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Domestic Abuse

If you are in danger right now, call 999. If you can't speak, stay on the line, then press 55 when prompted, and the operator will know it's an emergency.

What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse is any pattern of controlling, threatening, degrading or violent behaviour by a partner, ex-partner or family member. It is not only physical. It can be emotional, psychological, sexual or financial, and it can include coercive control, which is a crime in the UK.

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, of any gender, age, sexuality or background. Men experience domestic abuse too, but often find it harder to recognise or talk about. Abuse has a serious impact on mental health, including anxiety, depression, PTSD and suicidal thoughts.

What are the signs of domestic abuse?

1. Controlling behaviour:

  • Checking your phone, messages or whereabouts.
  • Controlling your money or access to it.
  • Stopping you seeing friends or family.
  • Telling you what to wear or who to talk to.

2. Emotional abuse:

  • Constant criticism, insults or put-downs.
  • Making you doubt your memory or judgement.
  • Threats to hurt you, themselves, children or pets.

3. Physical and sexual abuse:

  • Hitting, pushing, choking or restraining.
  • Pressuring or forcing you into sexual activity.

4. How you might feel:

  • Afraid of your partner's reactions.
  • Walking on eggshells.
  • Believing it is your fault.

What are the statistics for domestic abuse in the UK?

Prevalence: The Crime Survey for England and Wales estimated that around 2.1 million people aged 16 and over experienced domestic abuse in the year ending March 2023.

Men: Around 1 in 3 victims of domestic abuse are estimated to be male.

Reporting: Much domestic abuse is never reported to the police.

Where to get help with domestic abuse UK?

Always call 999 if you are in immediate danger.

National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge):
Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (24/7, free)
Website: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

Men's Advice Line (run by Respect): Support for male victims of domestic abuse.
Helpline: 0808 8010 327

Galop: Support for LGBT+ people experiencing abuse.
Helpline: 0800 999 5428

Respect Phoneline: For people worried about their own abusive behaviour who want to change.
Helpline: 0808 802 4040

Samaritans:
Helpline: 116 123 (24/7, free to call)

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Abuse is never your fault. You deserve to feel safe.

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